The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that at 2.9%, the divorce rate in Washington is above the national average. Going through any type of divorce is not easy, but if it becomes contentious, the emotional toll can be overwhelming.
Dealing with the weight of emotions and the potential strain on children might make it feel impossible to maintain your mental and emotional well-being. However, adopting certain strategies and focusing on self-care can help you sail through these choppy waters with your sanity intact.
Acknowledge the emotional rollercoaster
Recognizing that emotions will run high during this time is the first step. Anger, sadness, confusion and moments of relief might come and go like waves. By acknowledging these feelings rather than suppressing them, you can process them in healthier ways. Consider joining a support group or seeking counseling services that specialize in divorce-related stress.
Establish a support system
Surround yourself with understanding friends and family. Their encouragement can serve as a crucial lifeline during tough days. Confide in those who uplift you, share your feelings and allow them to offer their perspective and strength.
Prioritize self-care
Engage in activities that relax and rejuvenate you, whether that means reading a book, taking long walks, practicing meditation or pursuing a hobby. Exercise can also be a beneficial outlet for stress, releasing endorphins that elevate your mood.
Limit communication with your spouse
If conversations with your spouse tend to escalate into arguments, try to limit direct communication. Use email or texts for essential conversations. This allows for thought-out responses and reduces immediate emotional reactions.
Protect your children from conflict
If you have children, remember they too are undergoing a significant life change. Keep them out of adult disputes and reassure them regularly. By fostering a safe emotional environment for them, you also create a healthier space for yourself.
Educate yourself about the process
Understand the basics of Washington’s divorce proceedings. By familiarizing yourself with the steps and what to expect, you reduce the fear of the unknown.
Facing a contentious divorce is challenging. Yet, with resilience and the right tools, you will emerge stronger on the other side.
